Quick question

[amadeupname]

How soon after you meet a person is it okay to ask them out? Like, say you met someone who you got along with pretty well, and had a lot in common, etc... Do you ask them out after a week or two of getting to know them? Or a couple days? I mean, if you wait too long it'll be more of a friends thing, and a lot of people don't want to touch that... Arg. I don't know. I'm going to bed.

Comments

[the-rpgenius.livejournal.com]

Think it depends largely on your own perspective. Myself, I'd wait a week or two. There are certain things about a person that you can find out quickly as a new friend that you won't see if you're dating. People do usually act a little differently towards possible romantic interests than just to friends. But really, it's up to you.

[amethyst-mind.livejournal.com]

I would wait as well. Some people are odd about having others ask them out after a few days and might think you're trying to move too fast. Also, I'm a fan of giving it some time because then you can experience any quirks the person might have as you spend more time with them. Case in point - I once had someone ask me out, and I was so enthused that I agreed immediately. Said guy turned out to be a possessive asshole when he was alone with me. >_<

I'd give it some time. Spend time with the guy, but don't start dating just yet. Ask him to do things with you, but don't make it a date - just do stuff as friends. Go see a movie, go to an arcade, etc. Get to know his quirks, how he acts when you two are alone, and so on before you ask him out. :)

well......

[darkfiend666.livejournal.com]

give it about 2 or 3 weks......you dont want the person to freak out cause you want them...and then again you dont want them running off....2 or 3 weeks is perfect

[niiea.livejournal.com]

I had a boy who waited SO long to ask me it just got...annoying. He never asked me out, all he would do was ask me... out. Like, to go places. And he came on too fast and too strong. Not doing things in a group first, even.
But that was in 7th grade, mind you. :P

However, with the love of my life, we said I love you after 3-4 days and by that Saturday (we met on the Friday) we were going out.

It all depends. Don't wait too long but I don't suggest making it so short either. It's up to you. Do what you feel is right.

AND- Why haven't you told me about this love interest?????

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

Because it's relatively new and I haven't talked to you lately?

[niiea.livejournal.com]

Oh.