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I'm in a D&D game that meets every other Sunday at the DM (who I'm going to refer to as H)'s house. The players consist of the DM's wife, Y, their friend, and Ricky and Ryan. We tend to trash-talk each other, and I tend to get picked on a lot, especially about sex. I can understand why - I can get easily flustered about that subject, so obviously I'm the fun target. Not a big deal.
After the last session, H asked me to stay behind for a few minutes because he wanted to talk to me about something. After my friends left, H said something about looking into Vampire since he's going to be running that sometime soon, and then Y jumped right into the heart of the matter ...
And asked me if I wanted to have sex with them.
This wasn't outright, mind you - it was behind such delicate subtleties as "So, you ever have a threesome?" and "You ever think about becoming a carpet-muncher?" H just kind of let her do the talking, and made a few jokes about how she was always ready to go or something. I kind of smiled politely, said no thanks, and spent the next ten minutes talking about breasts and trying to figure out an excuse to leave. I finally just said that I needed to get home or my grandmother would start to worry (which was true enough) and left.
And according to Ryan, who IMed me an hour ago asking what had happened, both he and Ricky wanted to wait for me, but they never did. Not that I'd expect them to under normal circumstances, but Ryan apparently suspected that H and Y were going to proposition me. So I'm kind of mad at him as well as slightly creeped out by this situation, but he's promised that he'll make sure I'm not sitting next to either of them at the game anymore, and that if I have to stay behind again for any reason he'll wait five minutes and call my cell phone. Still pissed off, though. But at least I have a valid excuse for not going to this Sunday's game, as I have to pick up my brother in Olivet, and that's a two-hour trip both ways.
After the last session, H asked me to stay behind for a few minutes because he wanted to talk to me about something. After my friends left, H said something about looking into Vampire since he's going to be running that sometime soon, and then Y jumped right into the heart of the matter ...
And asked me if I wanted to have sex with them.
This wasn't outright, mind you - it was behind such delicate subtleties as "So, you ever have a threesome?" and "You ever think about becoming a carpet-muncher?" H just kind of let her do the talking, and made a few jokes about how she was always ready to go or something. I kind of smiled politely, said no thanks, and spent the next ten minutes talking about breasts and trying to figure out an excuse to leave. I finally just said that I needed to get home or my grandmother would start to worry (which was true enough) and left.
And according to Ryan, who IMed me an hour ago asking what had happened, both he and Ricky wanted to wait for me, but they never did. Not that I'd expect them to under normal circumstances, but Ryan apparently suspected that H and Y were going to proposition me. So I'm kind of mad at him as well as slightly creeped out by this situation, but he's promised that he'll make sure I'm not sitting next to either of them at the game anymore, and that if I have to stay behind again for any reason he'll wait five minutes and call my cell phone. Still pissed off, though. But at least I have a valid excuse for not going to this Sunday's game, as I have to pick up my brother in Olivet, and that's a two-hour trip both ways.
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Granted, it's a little strange, and I don't blame you for feeling disconcerted about it, but I wouldn't be suspicious to the point you think you might be in danger unless you have other reasons for thinking so. Just because they asked if you'd like to doesn't mean they're going to rape you.
But I don't know the full story, so if you FEEL unsafe, then it IS good to be cautious.
At any rate, if they are friends of yours, then they'll act like friends and be okay with YOUR decision. And after some brief awkwardness things will continue as before. If you never liked them to begin with... um, take it as an excuse to cut ties? Say "I'm flattered but at the same time, I'm afraid I'm just too weirded out by it. I'm sorry. I don't think I want to play anymore."
Either way be true to you and you'll come through, doodly dee doo!
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