Yeah, you know what? Fuck you.

[amadeupname]

I'm not entirely sure how to react when my friends say stuff that offends me. Usually I either clam up and try to change the subject to something completely unrelated or hope that someone else does (for example, Andy's "Bros Before Hoes" Obama v. Clinton shirt; I found that pretty offensive, but being surrounded by guys I didn't think it would be wise to speak up and get picked on for the rest of the night), or I get snappy and get told that I'm overreacting.

Today Chris compared me, first, to a rhinoceros, and then to a hippopotamus, as apparently hippos are much more violent. Nick was going along with it, I think mostly because he likes to tease me, not necessarily because he was trying to be hurtful, but I'm pretty damn sure Chris was setting out to really piss me off. So I'm really glad that no one told me I was overreacting when I told him to go fuck himself and then left for class a half hour early, because if they had I think I would have started screaming. As it is, Chris is lucky I only slammed a glass on his arm instead of punching him in the face. (Yeah, I realize that's not helping dispel his analogy, but I rather think he deserves it anyway.)

You'd think it wouldn't bother me, but honestly I almost never hear people insulting me for or even pointing out my weight - usually I do that. Usually I try not to get offended when my friends make off-hand comments about fat girls or weight, since they're not usually aimed at me and I know they're not trying to make me feel bad, but I can't help but get pissed off when I'm being compared to a fucking hippo.

Comments

[prettyparadox.livejournal.com]

Tell them. And if they're any friends at all, they should stop making "jokes" that aren't amusing and are rather insulting. But if you don't tell them how it makes you feel, they don't know, and to complain about their behavior when you haven't told them how offended you are by it, isn't fair to your friends. (Not that I'm on their side, I'm definitely not, but if they're reasonable people and respectable friends, they wouldn't intentionally hurt you.)

[thatknittygirl.livejournal.com]

I defended your honor!

[magiclad2007.livejournal.com]

Just wondering, how was Andy's shirt offensive? Was it because it put men ahead of women, because it's an urban phrase commonly used by african americans, because you support Hillary Clinton, the fact that the phrase is already rather misogynistic, or all of the above?

I personally believe it's a clever quip supporting Obama, because I believe Clinton is just not what this country needs.

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

The misogyny is what bothers me. (I honestly have no idea who I'm supporting in the election, though I'll probably be choosing between the two.) It's a lot more blatant than the usual fare - not to say that the Whimsy/lunch/dinner crowd usually spouts horribly misogynistic language. And I usually don't speak up any other time because, frankly, the men and women alike would insist that I'm being sensitive, that there's nothing wrong with that phrase.

He's not part of the group, but I'd had this problem with Oz's boyfriend, Sean. We were watching Supernatural in his room, and he called damn near every woman a 'stupid bitch' or a 'whore', and when I asked him to cut it out because it was starting to offend me, I got "Well she is! I'm just pointing it out!" from him, and "He's just like that sometimes, usually he's pretty nice" from Oz.

I'd love to be able to speak up and say, "Hey, that offends me, please cut it out," but with the people we hang out with they're more likely to do it just to piss me off.

[moldypotatochip.livejournal.com]

I feel like I'm missing so much of America right now from reading this. I didn't even know a shirt like that existed although it doesn't really surprise me. It's kind of funny... but it's also making fun of both of them.

I'm kind of wondering why someone would try to compare you to a hippo/rhino in the first place, because that seems like it would be a weird conversation, and it's pretty rude in my opinion that he was tying to piss you off like that. *hugs* Stupid stupid idiot. You had ever right to whack him.

[thatknittygirl.livejournal.com]

I whacked them for her.

yeah...

[sportadork07.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'd be mad, too. Don't blame you one bit, girl.