EW.

[amadeupname]

I was just at the Thunderbird, enjoying one of their French sodas. Before I came in I witnessed a guy that looks like my stepdad walking inside. I don't remember his name, but Jessica introduced us, and mentioned I was single (curse her!), on New Year's Eve. I've only seen him once or twice after that. He's not a bad person, but he's slightly creepy, obviously socially inept (more so than I am, hard as that might be to believe), and has a lazy eye that's kind of unsettling. Not wanting to really talk to him, I put my hood up and went inside to just sit, have a soda, and surf the web on my laptop.

All was going well until he headed for the door and saw my face under the hood. (I knew I should have faced the door!) So he sat down, and Dad called and saved me from having to stay until closing, since we're having dinner in a bit, and then we got into some conversation about fathers, with him telling me to spend time with my father and then getting into how his father abused him. I kept thinking "Why are you telling me this? You keep saying you don't want to get into it -- AND THEN YOU DO. Make up your mind!"

... And then he said, "I know we've only known each other for a little while, and we're friends and I don't want to mess that up, but you're kind of cute." I groaned inwardly, thanked him, and told him that right now I'm too busy for a relationship. Then I said that I had to get going, because I had a lot of errands to run before I got home, and he said, "Are you sure you're not leaving to get rid of me?"

Well, what was I supposed to say to that? "Yes, now would you excuse me while I flee?" I made up some excuse about having to pick up a lot of stuff and getting stuff done tonight so I don't have to rush tomorrow, and ran out. But he insisted on a "friendly hug" first. And then he said "I love you," and added "in a friendly way" really fast after that. I just kind of smiled, walked out the door, and then dashed to the car and shuddered all the way home.

What am I supposed to do when a guy's interested and he just creeps me out? Hell, what is it about me that attracts the creeps and the assholes and the really fucking weird guys?! WHY CAN'T I FIND A NORMAL GUY TO ASSOCIATE WITH?!

Comments

[hidden-now5.livejournal.com]

Well, from personal experience of becoming very attached to a female friend for an obstentiously long amount of time, it's probably in your best interest to set some solid barriers and make it known where they are. And don't compromise them. Let your guard down just a little and the natural stubborn persistence in the male head will kick in.

[moldypotatochip.livejournal.com]

Some men are just creepy and it seems like those same creepy men are the ones that never get the hint. So be obvious.

[maladaptive.livejournal.com]

I'd say "I'm flattered, but not interested," except you already did that in different words.

If it comes up again, say it. If he presses the issue, tell him to knock it off, it's honestly creepy. These guys have no idea that it's creepy.

[gustov.livejournal.com]

Just tell him 'thank you for your intrest, it really is flattering. Unfortunately I'm not interested in you like that.'

That should get the point across.

[niiea.livejournal.com]

...-is scared for you-

I'm too short to beat someone up but I will if he touches you again.

:)

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

I THOUGHT I was setting boundaries. I don't even talk to him much, and when I do I try to ignore him or talk to other people so he'll go away. And then he asks to play my Nintendo DS and I end up with nothing to do. =/

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

Aww, thank you Deli Meat! *hugs*

[niiea.livejournal.com]

Ohh it's so ironic, that nickname, because I don't eat meat. Hahaha... I love it though.

And I totally totally would.

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

I hope that works. I mean, when I told him I wasn't interested the first time, when Jessica introduced us, I added that he was over my age limit, as he is 25. I told him, and this is the truth, that I can't date older guys because it would be awkward and I would feel like I was dating an older brother or, worse, my dad. He said, "No it wouldn't," and wouldn't listen to me when I said that it would indeed be like that for me.

That, and he looks like my mom's ex. That's just too uncanny.

[maladaptive.livejournal.com]

Then he's just an ass that won't take no for an answer. Simple as that.

Dealing with those is much harder... all we can do is avoid them.

[soulfire003.livejournal.com]

Just tell him you have a boyfriend already? Say it's an internet thing or something?

[bowzerj.livejournal.com]

If he comes after you again just say you're a lesbian. Or throw a plate at him. Either way, he should lose interest.

[thesaneminority.livejournal.com]

I could piss Will off really bad and claim he's my boyfriend. XD